Recommended Books

  • Arp, David and Arp, Claudia, 10 Great Dates to Energize Your Marriage, 1997
  • Arp, David and Arp, Claudia, 10 Great Dates for Empty Nesters, 2004
  • Arp, David and Arp, Claudia, 10 Great Dates Before You Say "I Do", 2003
  • Baker, Ford, Time Out for a Better Marriage: The Husband Guide: Volume I, October 13, 2013
  • Bercht, Anne, My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me, 2007
  • Stefanie Carnes and Mari A. Lee, Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts, Oct 16, 2012
  • Claudia black et al, Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction, 2012
  • Cassella, Lynn, Making Your Way After Your Parents’ Divorce, 2002
  • Mark Chamberlain, PhD and Geoff Steurer, Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mar 9, 2011
  • Coleman, Joshua, Imperfect Harmony: How to Stay Married for the Sake of Your Children and Still Be Happy, 2003
  • DeAngelis, Barbara. (1992). Are You the One For Me? New York: Bantam
  • Rita DeMaria, Sari Harrar , 7 Stages of Marriage: Laughter, Intimacy and Passion Today, Tomorrow, Forever, 2006
  • Doherty, William. Take Back Your Marriage. New York: Guilford Press, 2001
  • Fisher, Bruce , Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, 9th edition, 1998
  • Fisher, Helen, (1992). Anatomy of Love: The Natural History of Monogamy, Adultery and Divorce. New York: Norton.
  • Fisher, Roger, Getting to Yes: How to Negotiate Agreement Without Giving In, 2nd edition, 2003
  • Ford, Debbie, Spiritual Divorce, 2001
  • Forward, Susan. When Your Lover is a Liar. New York: HarperCollins, 1999
  • Glass, Shirley, Not "Just Friends": Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal, 2002
  • Goldsmith, Barton, The Happy Couple: How to Make Happiness a Habit One Little Loving Thing at a Time, December 1, 2013
  • Gordon, Lori. Passage to Intimacy. New York: Fireside, 2000
  • Gottman, John M. with Silver, Nan. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail… and How You Can Make Yours Last. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1994
  • Gottman, John M. & Silver, Nan. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown, 2000
  • Gottman, John. and Joan DeClaire. (2001). The Relationship Cure. New York: Crown
  • Gottman, John PhD, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
  • John PhD Gottman and Nan Silver, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal, Sep 4, 2012
  • John Gottman Ph.D. and Julie Schwartz Gottman, And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives…, Jan 22, 2008
  • Gray, John. Mars and Venus in the Bedroom. New York: HarperCollins, 2001.
  • Grenier, Dr. Guy, The 10 Conversations You Must Have Before You Get Married (and How to Have Them), Published: 2013
  • Hendrix, Harville. Getting the Love You Want. New York: Harper & Row, 1990
  • Haltzman, Scott and Foy DiGeronimo, Theresa, The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less, 2008
  • Haltzman, Scott and Foy DiGeronimo, Theresa, The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever, 2005
  • Harley, Willard F., He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation, October 1, 2013
  • Harley, Willard Jr., Fall in Love Stay in Love, 2001
  • Dr. Jay, Julie Kent-Ferraro, Phil Gigante, Surprised by Love: One Couple’s Journey from Infidelity to True Love, 2012
  • Johnson, Sue, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, 2008
  • Johnson, Sue, Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships – 2013
  • Leman, Dr. Kevin, Sex Begins in the Kitchen: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle, 2013
  • Love, Patricia and Stosny, Steven, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It: Finding Love Beyond Words, 2007
  • Patricia Love, Jo Robinson, Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking,1995
  • Schaeffer, Brenda, Is It Love or Is It Addiction: The Book That Changed the Way We Think About Romance and Intimacy, (Mar 27, 2009)
  • Smalley, Erin, Little Book of Great Dates: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun, September 20, 2013
  • Lerner, Harriet Goldhor (1993). The Dance of Deception, New York: HarperCollins
  • Leman, Dr. Kevin Sex Begins in the Kitchen, 2000
  • Levine, Janice & Markman, Howard, Eds. Why Do Fools Fall in Love? Experiencing the Magic, Mystery, and Meaning of Successful Relationships. New York: John Wiley & Sons, 2000
  • Love, Pat. The Truth about Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001
  • Love, Pat with Robinson, Jo. Emotional Incest: What To Do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life. New York: Bantam, 1991
  • Love, Pat & Robinson, Jo. Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking. New York: Plume/Penguin, 1995
  • McCarthy, Barry and McCarthy, Emily, Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages, 2003
  • Sharon Meers, Joanna Strober, and Marguerite Gavin, Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All by Sharing It All – and Why It’s Good for Your Marriage, Your Career, Your Kids, and You, Published: 2013
  • Mercer, Diana & Pruett, Marsha Kline. Your Divorce Advisor: A Lawyer and a Psychologist Guide You Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce. New York: Fireside, 2001
  • Moore., Julia Hartley, Infidelity: Exploding the Myths, 2011
  • Neuman, M. Gary. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way. New York: Random House, 1999
  • Newell, Elaine, When Your Long-Term Marriage Ends: A Workbook for Divorced Women, 1994
  • Les and Leslie Parrott, Your Time-Starved Marriage: How to Stay Connected at the Speed of Life, 2006
  • Pierce, Kevin, The Five Love Languages in 30 Minutes, August 6, 2013
  • Pema, Chodron, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, 2000
  • Pines, Ayala Malach. Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose. New York: Routledge, 1999
  • Pittman, Frank. Private Lies: Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy. New York: W.W. Norton & Company, 1989
  • Raffel, Lee, Should I Stay or Go? How Controlled Separation Can Save Your Marriage, 1997
  • Ricci, Isolina. Mom’s House, Dad’s House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried. New York: Simon & Schuster Trade Paperbacks, 1997
  • Roxas, Kayla A., How to Save Your Marriage: Win Your Husband Back and Restore Your Marriage and Intimacy, 2013
  • Schaeffer, Brenda, Is It Love or Is It Addiction: The Book That Changed the Way We Think About Romance and Intimacy, Mar 27, 2009
  • Smalley, Erin, Little Book of Great Dates: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun, September 20, 2013
  • Douglas K. Snyder PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD and Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart, Jan 6, 2007
  • Stark, Vikki, Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, Feb 1, 2010
  • Sugarbaker, Geneva, Nice Women Get Divorced: The Conflicts & Challenges for Traditional Women, 1992
  • Schwarz, Robert and Braff, Elaine, We’re No Fun Anymore: Helping Couples Cultivate Joyful Marriages Through the Power of Play, 2012
  • Taylor, Maurice and McCee, Seana, The New Couple – Why the Old Rules Don’t Work and What Does, 2000
  • John VanEpp, How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk, 2006
  • Vaughan, Peggy, To Have and to Hold: A Personal Handbook for Building a Strong Marriage and Preventing Affairs, 2010
  • Wallerstein, Judith S., Blakeslee, Sandra, & Lewis, Julia M. Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study. New York: Hyperion, 2001
  • Weiner-Davis Michelle. The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001.
  • Whitehead, Barbara Dafoe, The Divorce Culture, 1997

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